These thoughts on friendship and love are — right or wrong — my notions. (And yours?) Something that I found more than interesting: “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” Not perhaps, but certainly, Raquel’s and my relationship, was “happy”, but even so, how did Nietzsche’s statement applies to me?
I’m fond of quoting myself. Like this one: “you don’t know what’ve missed, till you miss it.” With Raquel’s death, I only missed our love emotionally. Spiritually, I have experienced it still exists and actually is expanding.
But friendship, well, that has levels, it has boundaries — and while I did not experienced all — some were taken for granted Yes, and with her death, I was beginning to know what I’ve been missing. Oh, it, the friendship, was always there but I wasn’t conscientious of some of it.
My love keeps growing but I’m lonely. I miss our friendship…our discussions, our walks to the harbor, our – our – our –no more — void — nada — gone — no more. I’m lonely!
I’ve discovered that while there is a difference between friendship and love, love requires friendship. But does friendship require love? I don’t know.