Memory of 57 years marriage was my ‘being’. With my wife gone, not only did I lose her but a big piece of my identity went with her. I needed temporary rests from the tensions that accompany the process.
I stumbled across something on the computer. I always was fond of classical music but some seemed new to me. Then I heard it. Same classical music (Bach, Mozart, Pachelbel etc.) but not on a piano but on a guitar. I must add, that I can only do one thing at time. So listening to this drove everything else out of my mind — no thought — just listening. I do not mean to promote classical guitar — I mean to suggest a short rest from your sorrow. A short rest which your mind can find rest, warmth, and peace.
What works for you? By sharing what works for you encourage others to find what might work for them.
Peace can mean more then find an end to physical violence (though that is good enough) but also release from emotional violence. One of my heroes pointed out to me “there is no way to peace, peace is the way.” Let it do its job.
Pax, Peter